I turn 59 this week, and a part of me can’t quite believe I am “so old.”
Another part marvels at the fact that my heart is still beating strong
after so many close calls with death and heartbreak.
Fifty-nine holds a kind of gravitas I’m unfamiliar with.
It’s coming whether I like it or not.
And part of me wants to resist this whole aging process and return to my 20s.
Another part—the wiser, quieter one—feels ready to create from here.
Not because it’s been easy,
but because I’ve loved, lost, and learned my way through to here.
Because every year, every heartbreak, every success, every breakthrough has shaped me—
shifted my identity, shattered old patterns of survival, and shed outdated stories—
to get to this NOW moment,
I get to decide to become more, do better, know my truth, and live fully embodied.
and because a content, satisfied, dare I say happy life –
its not a life without struggle,
it’s a life with meaningful struggle.
and I’ve been thinking……
about how each experience that was hard,
was necessary
has given my life
so
much
meaning.
especially the struggle I did not consciously choose.
The truth about transition (and why you’re so tired)
Over the years—like so many of my clients
—I’ve learnt to normalise the exhaustion that shows up in the midst of major life transitions.
(And no, this isn’t a midlife crisis—it’s a midlife awakening.)
Like dominos falling, one big change tends to lead to another:
Moving countries.
Saying goodbye to homes that held our children.
Turning 50, 60, 70..…
Suddenly divorced or widowed.
Aging parents.
Becoming the elder of your lineage.
Even healing
—especially healing—
is a life transition.
And it’s tiring.
It remind myself that we are all dipping in and out of seasons that are changing us,
challenging us, and calling us into deeper contact with our fleshy body suits and with life.
I remind myself that the cycle of life has no beginning and no end,
that I, like you are transitioning out of summer into late summer
and that as solstice draws closer, the days will get shorter.
Most of us don’t even realise what we’re passing through.
And we’re rarely taught how to allow the unfolding
—or the undoing.
The mind clings to some golden ideal,
a brighter way of being,
and refuses to begin a conversation with what feels hard to live inside.
We use both hands to push against the wave,
We forget the necessary work of maturation and meeting the heart.
We forget that this soft human body that houses our soul
is not against us.
It is wise – tender – loving.
It knows what we need long before the mind.
Especially when it asks us to slow down and feel what we’d rather avoid.
The tree outside my window is coming into leaf.
The buds are bright and tender, unfurling from dull-coloured branches.
Something in me is trying to do the same.
I hope something in you is too.
On May 27th, 2025, we have a New Moon at 6° Gemini.
It will feel like a breath of fresh air, as if a heaviness has been lifted.
And as part of nature, just like the tree stretching out to the sun and the moon and the stars
We are being reconfigured and deeply supported through each transition,
We are being invited to expand our horizons,
To stay open – connected to our hearts and the heartbeat of the Earth with a childlike curiousity
To reach out and say YES – to all the opportunities coming our way.
5 Ways to Create More Ease + Grace During Transitions
What season are you in?
1. Let it be winter
What looks dormant may be fertile.
Midlife isn’t an ending—it’s the moist soil where new roots are taking hold.
2. Inhabit the now
Not with resignation, but with gratitude and acceptance.
Can you meet the moment as it is? Can you let quiet joy surprise you?
3. Reject the myth of decline
This isn’t about shrinking or disappearing.
It’s about reclaiming yourself from what was never truly yours to carry.
4. Reclaim the dream, imagine it as already here.
It’s never too late to become what your know are destined to be.
How much more can you actively contribute to this new world —
to make it a better place (Saturn and Neptune in Aries).
“No star is ever lost we once have seen.”
5. Re write your living legacy story.
The stories we tell shape how we see ourselves.
Choose one where you are not reduced, but revealed.
One where all of you belongs.
Start with
” I forgive myself for buying into the misunderstanding that ……
or the story I have been telling myself ………
but the truth is that ………….”
This isn’t about clinging to endless summer.
It’s not about forcing a reinvention.
It’s about yielding to the season I’m in
—and letting it reveal the next best version of who I am becoming.
A soul prayer (for you and for me)
This is for you beautiful woman – if you are grieving quietly
If you feel invisible, less vital, or unsure of your worth….
— May you feel the sacredness of this transition
May you know that you are not fading, but ripening
May you find beauty in your becoming
And may you always remember:
You don’t have to be “ready.”
You only have to be real.
You are not defined by how long you’ve lived
or how many summers you may have left.
You are shaped by how honestly you meet this moment.
You are exactly where you’re meant to be.
Not ahead. Not behind. Just here.
And here is holy.
As are YOU.
I see you!
I honor you on your journet.
With all my love,
Sarah-Jane x
P.S. You don’t have to hold it all alone.
If you’re in the thick of transition—grief, awakening, nervous system burnout,
or the quiet undoing of old identities—
A Turning Point Session is a place to land.
Together, we’ll honour the season you’re in and gently reconnect
you to the deeper story that wants to emerge.
You’ll walk away RESET and with the tools to rewire your nervous system,
restore your sense of self, and soften into what’s next.
Because this season is not your end.
This new moon
It’s your becoming.